My big city friends are always complaining about how they have no time to take a break and when they do they can hardly even relax. It takes a lot to come down from the intensity of the days activities. How many times after a long day at the job have you come home only to go over and over all that happened? Replaying the good and the bad until its time to start again? This is not the way to relax. This only continues to increase stress or, at best, put it aside for moments.

What people need is an alternative that won't shock them. People need to find a way to relax that won't put them through even more stress. Therde are many options available to people, depending on where they live. But even if you do not have access to some of the big city diversions there's a lot that can be done.

When people think about Buddhism they tend to remember that college roommate, the hippie one. Or maybe they think of those blowhard actors in Hollywood with all their money. None of this helps when you need to relax. Meditation is an exceptional way to relieve stress. There are many ways that Buddhists meditate but the crucial point is the discipline to do it and to continue to do it. There are a plethora of books, pamphlets, websites, and magazines devoted to this topic and even the slimmest volume can be of great help, but for those that are averse to those outlets for whatever reason, there is a remedy for you. All you need is some quite, some alone time, and some patience. At first you will think twice as hard about all you want to forget. Meditation is not easy, thus so many books, but once you calm down and get the hang of it you will see results.

But the body gets stressed as much as the mind, what can be done? Exercise is the best answer. Working out will relax you when you've finished. Still, sometimes all you want is to let go and pounding weights won't help. This is when you indulge and find a spa. Somewhere to get pampered. Obviously only the wealthy can do this with frequency. But after you've been to one you can take home some ideas. Indulge in the memory while you soak in a bubblebath at home.

There is a lot that can be done to relieve stress. It's funny, but one almost has to learn to relax in today's world. There are many healthy ways to do so... the important thing to remember is that you must take the time to relax. Otherwise what are you working so hard for?

Enrique Ramos is a frequent contributer to online publication NYWellnessGuide.com- New York Area wellness related resources and information for stress management, personal growth, nutrition, and wellbeing.